These are 5 easy and quick ways to boost your confidence.
Confidence gives you a special glow and makes you incredibly attractive. In addition, it is contagious—others pick up on it and feel it too.
It allows you to be present and to think clearly, which helps you carry yourself with grace.
When feeling confident, you are more receptive to social cues and reading body language, and have more awareness of how your actions influence others.
This makes you a better conversationalist and leads to higher-quality experiences.
When I was a young girl, I was very shy. I used to think that shyness was my identity. This is not at all true.
It is only a state of mind; I learned as an adult that our true selves are found in a confident state.
Confidence is all about feeling safe, and comfortable in your own skin.
I’m going to share 5 ways to boost confidence and help you live to your fullest.
1. It’s okay to not feel confident…
I’m going to start off by saying that it is completely normal to have moments of insecurity. It is all a part of the human experience.
None of us are going to feel confident, all of the time. In fact, feeling uncomfortable is a good thing. It means that you are entering new territory which means there is potential for growth.
Growth is necessary for a fulfilled life. It’s good to be a beginner, or in a “student” phase because it means you are constantly learning.
So next time you feel this way, embrace it! You’re on the right track.
In time, and with practice with whatever it is that’s making you feel unsure of yourself, confidence will naturally build. You become more familiar and better at it.
Your perception of these feelings can either hold you back and keep you stuck there, or make you resilient and flexible.
Knowing this has helped put a sense of relief in me, whenever I caught myself thinking negatively in the past.
There’s no need to beat yourself over feeling unsure or unconfident
2. Invest in Other Areas
Think back to a time you accomplished something big–something you were so proud of. Right after accomplishing it, going back to life feels easy. You feel high, more confident–more willing to take on risks and put yourself out there.
When you make progress, it raises your overall confidence. From then, you are uplifted, and you bring this confidence into other aspects of life.
This is exactly how it works.
If you’re ever going through a slump and feeling low, shift your focus and energy on your strengths–invest in making progress in other areas of your life.
Doing this helps you to find yourself again when feeling disconnected.
Sometimes, we can burn out with too much focus on one area.
When you’re at a point where you are feeling that there is no more progress, and working on the task seems to bring more stress than anything else, it may be time for a break.
Being in this state for too long can be harmful to your confidence, and discourage you from moving forward. Sometimes it’s important to connect to your strength and remind yourself of your value.
Shifting the focus to a strength helps spark passion again and energize you.
It also boosts confidence to know that you are building up a skillset that is unique to you.
Find an area of strength that you can build on.
The more you progress, the more you prove to yourself that you are capable of great things
From then, going back to the obstacle that initially was giving you a hard time will feel easier because of your built-up confidence.
3. Use Your Intuition to Make More Decisions
Put yourself in the driver’s seat and start making your own decisions. This strengthens your ability to trust in your own judgment and sense of credibility.
Making decisions sends the message to your mind and body that you are confident. You make the decisions for yourself because you are sure of yourself.
The more you do this, the less others’ opinions have influence over you.
Feedback and ideas from others can still be valuable, however, when you feel confident, you can analyze external input with more clarity, and get better at determining if it is useful to you or not.
You free yourself in the sense that your sense of validation, or your voice no longer lies in those external opinions.
Remember, your input is just as valuable. You also know your situation best–you have your own perspective.
No one has lived in your body or experienced what you have. You have value to offer to the world that no one else can.
So, practice making decisions for yourself. Anytime the opportunity arises, take a moment to ask what you truly want, deep down.
Say no more often. Only accept opportunities you actually want to take on—the ones you want most.
And last, avoid asking others for their approval.
This can apply to small things, like asking if you should wear a certain outfit, or if a picture is good enough to post.
Each time you ask for someone’s approval, you lie your confidence in somewhere external; any approval that does not come from yourself is fragile and dependent on circumstances.
Voice your opinions—whenever you want something, say it out loud–your input is valid.
4. Exposure Therapy – Release Control
Whatever it is that makes your insecurities loud, loses its power the more you face it.
The key to being resilient and moving on despite setbacks is to move on. Don’t give too much power to them.
Fear holds us back. When in a fearful state, our minds make up countless lies and exaggerate how “badly” things can go.
One way to stop fearing failure is to embrace the feeling and see it for what it is: a stepping stone.
It’s like picking up a new hobby or skill you haven’t tried in a while. You start out rusty, but if you continuously practice it, you can’t help but to improve at it.
The best part is that you don’t have to think hard about it—confidence builds naturally with exposure.
When you face an uncomfortable situation, you adapt. You become sharper and bolder, and after facing the “worst” that can happen, you stop trying to control everything.
The more you warm up and put yourself out there, the easier it is to flow.
5. Affirmations
Affirmations are the absolute easiest way to shift your state of mind.
They interrupt and transform negative thinking patterns, then replace them with new feelings and beliefs. By listening with an open heart, you can feel the effects of affirmations as soon as instantly.
To get the most out of affirmations, do your best to feel what they are saying.
In addition, get in tune with your body—listening to affirmations is all about listening to your body and doing what feels best. Your body’s needs vary from moment to moment. There is no right or perfect way to practice.
I find affirmations to be an excellent tool to change the state of mind; especially when it is crowded and overwhelmed.
The following video is one of my favorite affirmation videos that I use frequently. They’re high-quality phrases, and so soothing to listen to. Look around the internet and find videos that suit you best.
Conclusion
These are my 5 top favorite confidence-boosting tips. Confidence can be easy to boost, and sometimes we just need a simple reminder. I’d love to hear your favorite confidence-boosting tips! Feel free to comment below.
Thanks for reading! Be sure to stay tuned for more food for thought!
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